Tips for Achieving Your New Year’s Resolutions

New Year’s resolutions are often made with the best intentions, but with little to no attention to the factors that will lead to the greatest success (i.e. change a behavior, start going to therapy, be more healthy, etc.). In fact, the statistics about people actually keeping their resolutions are not very good. However, there is hope! By following a few techniques you can greatly increase the success of your New Year’s resolutions.

Be Realistic: Setting a goal that is too massive will surely fail. For example, many people set New Year’s resolutions that they are going to change their career, or “become healthy”, or stop fighting with their partner for family. The problem with creating resolutions in this way is that they can feel overwhelming. What does it mean to “become healthy”? A full over haul of your lifestyle is tough. Start with something more manageable, “I am going to walk more, make more of an effort to stay connected with people I care about, and explore finding a healthy outlet for stress.”

Set Objectives: Be very clear about how you will measure your progress, while allowing for some wiggle room. Remember, you are a human, not a robot. Decide what a reasonable amount of success towards your New Year’s resolution is. Then write down the steps you need to take to achieve your goal. An important rule of thumb: if you break down a project or resolution into steps and still have trouble getting started, then the first step is still too big.

Use Positive Visualization: People often tend to think of the dread of starting a project or goal, “I hate the gym.” or “I’ll never be more organized, my place is a mess!” Instead of being confronted with these negative thoughts, think about the how you will feel and how your life will be different if you meet your goal, “If I make it to the gym today I will sleep better, feel better, and get out of the house.”

Don’t Let Setbacks Stop You: There are always going to be hiccups and hassles that can impede your progress from day to day. It is totally normal for this to happen. However, when it does, get out a piece of paper and write down one small thing you can do to get started again working towards your New Year’s Resolution. The old adage of “The hardest part is getting started.” can be very true. Get started and don’t give up when you miss a step towards your goal.

I often get many calls from people this time of year wanting to start therapy or find ways to be more successful in their career or personal life.  I work with all of my client’s to identify manageable goals, capitalize on their strengths and make the most of their life and relationships, through the use of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Positive Psychology, and other goal oriented techniques.

I welcome your calls and emails and hope to help you reach your full potential in 2013.

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Phil Boissiere, MFT provides goal oriented Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in San Francisco and Menlo Park.

Positive Psychology for Success

All to often people shy away from seeking therapy due to misconceptions about what therapy is. This is in large part due to psychodynamic (Freudian etc.) approaches that do a fair amount of “digging” around in peoples childhood experiences. Unfortunately, this leads to people not receiving the support they need, which in turn increases or leads to dysfunction and dissatisfaction with life. Fortunately, modern approaches to psychotherapy and counseling, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, focus on helping people reach their goals and capitalize on their strengths.

In recent years the field of Positive Psychology has come to fruition and has been shown to have a profound effect on furthering an individuals occupational, social, academic, creative, and intellectual goals. Positive psychology is a rich empirical basis for health, work, quality of life, and leadership coaching. 

So, what is Positive Psychology exactly? Very simply put, it is the exploration of processes and circumstances that lead to optimal performance, life satisfaction, and health.

Unlike psychological theories from the past, which tend to focus on “what is wrong”, Positive Psychology focuses on human strengths and healthy positive experiences to improve the lives of people.

I utilize the principals and applications of Positive Psychology to help business professionals, artists, authors, and tech leaders advance their careers, personal growth, and success. I have had great success combining Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Positive Psychology with coaching in San Francisco, Palo Alto, Menlo Park, and the greater Silicon Valley. A common statement from my clients is “I didn’t know therapy could be this way!” or “This is so empowering.”

Work Performance and Mental Health

The workplace can be a stressful and demanding place for anyone. Unfortunately, when people are struggling with a psychological disorder, such as anxiety, depression, or ADHD/ADD, the workplace can be even more difficult. Below are some common ways in which psychological disorders can affect a person’s occupational performance.

  • Trouble blocking out or filtering environmental stimuli – working in a loud area or near a piece of noisy equipment may be very difficult.
  • Maintaining concentration – short attention span, fidgeting, leaving workspace, being distracted, and difficulty remembering instructions. 
  • Maintaining energy – finding the energy to complete a full day of work, fighting drowsiness.
  • Managing time pressures and multitasking– balancing assignments, prioritizing and meeting deadlines.
  • Interactions with coworkers – fitting in, talking with coworkers, reading/understanding social cues.
  • Coping with negative feedback – interpreting criticism, understanding what needs to be changed to improve, trouble changing due to low self-esteem.
  • Dealing with change – navigating unexpected changes at work, changes in protocols, job tasks, or supervisors/coworkers

It is very important that if  you or someone you know is experience work related struggles due to anxiety, adult ADHD, depression, or relationship issues, that  you seek assistance. Your career development and personal satisfaction may depend on it. A mental health professional that understands the demands of the corporate environment and can take the time to help you develop specific skills for improvement is crucial. The Silicon Valley and San Francisco are an incredible place of opportunity, but can also be a place of great pressure.

Effective Treatments for Adult ADHD Fact Sheet

The media, internet and popular cultural, are full of bad information about the treatment of adult ADHD. I have prepared an easy to read and share PDF to help you or someone you care about, find accurate information about treatments for adult ADHD.Please download this informative information sheet on the most effective treatments for adult ADHD, based on current research.

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Adult ADHD Treatment Information Sheet

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Phil Boissiere, MFT is a specialist in the treatment and assessment of ADHD / ADD in San Francisco, Menlo Park, Palo Alto, and the Silicon Valley.

 

 

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Anxiety

Research shows that Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is usually the most effective option for the treatment of anxiety and related disorders. This is because CBT addresses the patterns of thoughts that lead to anxious feelings and subsequent behaviors. CBT can help you discover the underlying causes of your worry and fear, develop relaxation strategies and look at situations in a new, less anxiety provoking way. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy gives you the tools to overcome anxiety that you can use for a lifetime.

There are a number of different anxiety disorders and each person is unique, so therapy should be tailored to your specific symptoms and concerns. For example, during the treatment of obsessive-compulsive disorder, treatment will be different than the treatment for panic attacks. The length of therapy will also depend on the type and severity of your anxiety disorder. Fortunately, CBT for anxiety is usually short-term and focused. According to the American Psychological Association, many people improve significantly within 8 to 10 sessions when working with a professional that treats anxiety and related conditions.

There are many different types of therapy used to treat anxiety, but the leading approach is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Some individuals choose to explore a combination of therapy and medication management. However, this is a personal decision and is addressed on a case-by-case basis.

In San Francisco and the Silicon Valley (Menlo Park, Palo Alto, San Jose etc.) there are many mental health professionals. It is important that you find a specialist in the treatment of anxiety that utilizes Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and can connect you with additional resources, such as a medical doctor, if needed.

During your first visits, your therapist or other mental health professional should be assessing for the presence of other disorders that may be contributing or exacerbating your anxiety, such as ADHD. Anxiety, depression, and adult ADHD,  can severely impact an individuals work performance and relationships.